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Shirley Howard

Shirley Louise Howard (Tomes)

Tuesday, October 28th, 1930 - Sunday, May 10th, 2020
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Shirley Louise (Tomes) Howard - October 28, 1930 – May 10, 2020

Shirley Howard, in her 90th year, died peacefully at home in Bayfield Manor residence at 3am (the Hour of Mercy in Catholic prayer tradition,) on Sunday, May 10th - Mother’s Day, within the one month period when her husband, 4 children, and several grand, and great grand, children were born. Following her husband, Jack Alexander Howard, (1926- 1985) Shirley passed into the nearer presence of God in the company of three of her children who were graciously allowed to sit with her, one at a time, during this time of social distancing, as she labored through her final week of life. Shirley is survived by 7 great grandchildren, 6 grandchildren and her own four children – Susan (Doug) Gander of Westport, Beverly (Jushua) Illauq of Kemptville, Charles Howard of West Palm Beach, Florida, and Father Will Howard of Westport.

As the eldest daughter of May and Jim Tomes, Shirley along with her sister, Eileen (Sol) Robbins of Trenton, grew up in Toronto during the depression where Shirley became a bright young secretary and a dedicated Girl Guide leader. At the age of 19, she met Jack at a YMCA dance, and they were married 6 months later. Although Mom married an up and coming civil engineer, 10 years and four children later, Shirley became a minister’s wife when Jack returned to university to study theology at Wycliffe College and be ordained in the Anglican Church of Canada. They ministered together in the parishes of Cookstown, Hastings, and Marmora in Ontario, Drummondville, Quebec and Temple Pastures Mission in Gatineau. After Jack’s sudden death in 1985, Shirley set out on a new career as an executive secretary for Wycliffe Bible Translators, which provided a global aspect to her life.

Upon retiring in 1999, Shirley continued always to be actively and ecumenically involved in church and community activities and relationships. Settling first in Picton she then moved to Westport in 2007, where her community involvement included writing a weekly seniors column. There she was recognized with two awards, Senior of the Year in 2016 and Volunteer of the Year in 2017. Later that year Shirley downsized to an apartment in Bayfield Manor seniors residence, Kemptville, where she continued to be known for her community spirit.

Shirley will be missed by her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, and by all of the many, many people she kept in touch with regularly by phone, email and snail mail, as well as her many friends and acquaintances collected over the years during a faithful life well lived.

Special thanks for all the exceptional and kind care she has received over the past three years, and especially over the last month, from Dr. Greg Leonard and all the staff at Bayfield Manor, the Champlain LHIN palliative care team, and the Kingston Cancer Clinic.

We are all so thankful that Shirley is at last able to ‘walk free’! A funeral Mass and celebration of life will be announced and held when our churches are again open, and travel permitted. Donations in Shirley’s memory can be made to Wycliffe Bible Translators, the Canadian Cancer Society, or Bayfield Manor.
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    St. Edward's Roman Catholic Church
    51 Bedford Street
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    Mass of Christian Burial will be held at a later date.


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Bettina Campbell

Posted at 03:10pm
Just heard the news of Shirley's going home and wanted to express my condolences to all the family. I was so grateful to see that Susan, Beverly and Will were able to spend time by her side before she passed - such a challenging time with this pandemic.
My mom, Inge Macuzzi, greatly treasured her friendship with Shirley and I'm sure they're having a catch up now that they're together again.

Vic & Jean Davies

Posted at 12:30am
Shirley was a shining light wherever she was. Love to the family, Victor and Jeannie Davies Perth Ontario

rusty bisonette

Posted at 05:53pm
She was such a lovely person and she will be missed.

Catherine Carbino

Posted at 03:24pm
Shirley was such a bright light, full of energy and fun to visit with. Enjoyed getting to know her when my mom, Marian Goulah lived in Westport. Often went to mass together and then coffee at Kay's restaurant. What a lovely lady!

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